August 24, 2015 August 24, 2015 rachelkitching Leave a comment. Do you get offended if people speak a different language near you? (Start typing, we will pick a forum for you), Taking a break or withdrawing from your course. My pet hate is folks especially when it's spelt folx. I do agree that it assumes a certain level of familiarity between the speaker and recipient, which you may not be comfortable with, but you should probably work towards getting over it because I doubt the word will be going anywhere. Same as being called love, darling, sweetheart, duck and so on by shop assistants. i cant be the only one who thinks this. Michael Winner's commercial 'Calm Down Dear' advertisement, David Cameron came under fire in 2011 when he said "calm down dear" to Harriet Harman, Emmanuel Macron told he's making a 'massive miscalculation' that UK will negotiate next year, Nobby Stiles' dementia caused by 'heading ball over a sustained period', Tier 4 Christmas: From Christmas Turkeys to being forced apart -Britons tell their stories, US Congress agrees deal on $900 billion rescue package, Tiger Woods and son Charlie finish seventh at two-day exhibition event, EU fears new Covid strain will explode across Channel. I've from the North and I don't recall ever being called love by a man. Yep, I can’t say I never achieved anything in my life. I use the term good-naturedly – to both men and women – and can only hope that they are taken in the same spirit as they are given. Me (49) got served by someone (20ish) in a supermarket. I might even give it a name like Paul. Why us British are so boring compared to other cultures! Calling strangers "love" is second nature to Alan Titchmarsh, but is it offensive? Is using the blanket term 'Blacks' or 'Whites' offensive? Lukus 31 Oct 2006 19:23:29 23,704 posts Seen 24 minutes ago Registered 16 years ago I Actually Don’t Mind Being Called Mate. Why being called ‘mate’ might actually be offensive. I hope they make allowances for my local patois and do not assume that I am regarding them as some inferior minion, or that I am claiming a closer affinity than I deserve. It's not a particular favourite of mine either but at least 'mate' always has an air of equality about it, if somewhat over familiar. AMA. Lord Attenborough addressed almost everyone he knew as “darling” because he said he was hopeless at remembering names. Seriously though, it's getting boring. They are part of local custom and slip into conversation almost without thinking. ), Official London School of Economics Undergraduate Applicants 2021 Thread, Applying to uni? Being called "love" by a lady from up north is their equivalence of "mate", whereas down south "duck" is more the norm. share. who else feels this way? It's kind of an unspoken thing. Being called mate, hen, pal, buddy..... By killahclaire. CunningOperative Sun 15-Sep-19 05:48:57. Perhaps if our politicians referred to each other as “love” or “darling”, then they might get along rather better. Being called "mate" by an Australian Being called "love" by a Brit Being called "sweetheart" by a Being called "son" by a grandpa Meowing at a cat and it meowing back – popular memes on the site ifunny.co No it is not an insult. Tell me why being called a 'paki' is offensive? What about being called 'mate'? As Australians we’ve grown up accepting ‘mate’ as a part our own lingo but what does it actually mean? You can personalise what you see on TSR. Called me mate on the three occasions. Say the first word that you think of when you see the word above, Finally finished my exams today! MoD reminds soldiers who they should show respect to as top brass complain of being called 'mate' by servicemen By Ollie Gillman for MailOnline 01:57 05 Jan 2015, updated 08:59 05 Jan 2015 Who else finds being referred to as 'mate' really rude and offensive? Jill Biden: How Joe Biden’s wife hated being called ‘Second Lady’ ... Mr Biden chose Kamala Harris to be his running mate, making her the first female Vice President-elect in US history. well id prefer it to ****, ****, **** etc. Indefinite Leave to Remain & Fee Status (some answers), Help: Portuguese qualifications to UK qualifications. How do you cope with the guilt of leaving your parents? By Alan Titchmarsh 20 September 2015 • 07:00 am . why don't girls these days like being called ''birds''? In neither instance does the person using such terms mean anything more by them than a friendly verbal handshake. I'd think it was very strange if I was. Did you know the Organ Donation Law has changed? it's hardly a positive term. Find your group chat here >>. Does anyone else find it offensive when a stranger such as a waiter in a restaurant calls you or your dh "mate" or "pal" or " I wouldn't mind people using the phrase unless it was used excessively or with abuse. Called to Mate book. Dunno why, something about it just prevents me from using the word at all without feeling ridiculous. And yeah, also guys for a group of women. A level - German Abitur Grade equivalents, Americans applying to university in the UK, Yes, it should be delayed as long as it needs to be, School should be online until they are prepared for testing, More support should be given by the government so school can start on time, Something else (let us know in the thread! Do you think calling people the "f word" (gay insult) is OK? Leaving Islam was the best thing I ever did AMA, The Official Formula One 2020 Season Thread, Girls if you have any questions for us boys, we will answer. I hope this discussion does have some relevence to the country and culture you live in but here is Scotland it is common to be called mate or buddy instead of your name by others. A friend of mine called them “germs of endearment” – those words used across the land to address folk we know and folk we don’t in equal measure. Have a good day, handsome :-) Him: Same. Are you guilty of doing it and when is it okay, and when not? Aug 19, 2020 - Being called "mate" by an Australian Being called "love" by a Brit Being called "sweetheart" by a Being called "son" by a grandpa Meowing at a cat and it meowing back – popular memes on the site ifunny.co Is this something you would say to a friend? John Zubrzycki is among the select few to have met Nizam Mukarram Jah. 0 comments. We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out. It's a certain culture that people get brought up in, and to the people saying it to you it's just like saying hello - it can have positive or negative implications, but in itself it isn't offensive. It's like being called "mate" or "dude" or "love" (lots of English people call both males and females "love). I have never addressed the Queen or another member of the Royal family as “love”. It's a simple phrase which is being said everywhere and most people intend to use that phrase, examples "Cheers mate" "You alright mate" it is part of the culture. usually in the gym someone asks 'have you got many sets left mate?' How are we supposed to refer to black people? Calling strangers "love" is second nature to Alan Titchmarsh, but is it offensive? Harvester: A pet hate, being called 'mate' - See 405 traveller reviews, 56 candid photos, and great deals for Bromborough, UK, at Tripadvisor. I know some people take exception to being called mate just generally, but it is generally considered by most people a polite way for most men to address most other men they dont know. Are the recipients of the word actually your mate or can anyone be called mate? I much prefer being called by my … © Copyright The Student Room 2017 all rights reserved. U 2 mate. A few days later, someone from an all female garage called for a quote on a windscreen. There are times, of course, when such familiarity is highly inappropriate. I always feel uncomfortable being called "mate" or calling someone else "mate". I know this only too well since, as a Yorkshireman, I have a habit of referring to those I know and also, I confess, those with whom I am not particularly well acquainted, as “love”. I recall this exact question being asked ages ago (or maybe it was "buddy"). Add message | Report | See all. i've been getting called mate by people who have served me in shops and bus drivers. I heard a bloke call the guy behind the counter in wh Smith pal and he wasn't impressed. i'm not sure but i do. Therefore you don't need to state that you are mates. But I suspect there are others of rank who have, in conversation, been so addressed and I have not noticed them bat an eye. Where I'm living it's common to be called mate or mush by men and sometimes women. I've been called love, darling and even babe by women at work, it doesn't bother me. Example: 1) G'day Mate 2) Person A: Mate did I tell you what that Sheila said to me yesterday?Person B: Nah mate, here sit down and tell me over a beer In surely one of the most unsavoury episodes ever witnessed on a training ground, one former Walsall player has spoken about the time he was called a terrorist by a team-mate. You may bridle when a shop assistant calls you “dear”, but I don’t mind a jot when someone I don’t know from Adam (or Eve) acknowledges me as “mate” or “guv”. Posted by Hayley McManus December 1, 2018 December 2, 2018 Posted in Essay Tags: etiquette, hand therapy, humour, injury, life, mate, rehabilitation. called definition: 1. past simple and past participle of call 2. to give someone or something a name, or to know or…. What's Wrong with Being Called Mate? or 'are you using that equipment mate?'. See you at xxxxxxxx for 7:30 :-) FYI yesterday he called me 'handsome man' in a text Respectful or too relaxed? Quite urgent please. If YOU ARE A JAMAICAN, DO YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE AFRICAN? How do you feel about being called 'honey', 'mate' 'love' 'dearest' or 'darling' in a work setting or when you're obtaining a professional service from a medic, a mechanic, a uni tutor, a charity or a chemist? Angst Thread MK IV. Read 133 reviews from the world's largest community for readers. save. The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd. Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. UCAS uk application- How do I enter my U.S. grades? Here is a similar thread: /archive/2262661 It's a positive term, why would it offend me? 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE. I have the ugliest pinky. Reply Prev 1 2 ... 4 5. of 7. they are also people who look hostile and kind of dickish. Dad beat me because I wouldn’t open the door, *MEGATHREAD* - The Ultimate 'Am I Good Enough For Medicine?' It’s an interesting thought. I think I’ve got it. Why is their hardly any Hispanics in the UK? ASIANS : Is it rude to ask brown asian people where their families come from? etc. This thread wont end well mate! etc. whenever i get called 'mate' i find it very rude and offensive. Now, I'm not offended at all but I am questioning it. But is it ever OK to say it to a woman? Can gay people be offensive towards straight people? Nor a Prime Minister. Sadly, I haven’t been able to find a mate called Ant, but their relationship actually reminds me of mine, with my best friend Daniel. Terms of endearment - or control? Stereotypical Australian saying. Learn more. Slang for "friend" used in New Zealand, Britain, Australia and Tasmania Being a classless bully as normal then eh deem? ... even when he is being a gigantic prat. 7 ... Having recently moved to the Midlands I am having to get used to being called 'duck' by other men! Cheers mate. Me: Looking forward to later. It seems to me to say much more about the recipient of such a form of address if they take it as an insult and an affront to their dignity. Being called Mate by a stranger. Are East Asian guys atttacted to Somali girls? Americans of course have different ways and different expressions to over our side of the pond? I don’t mind being called ‘mate’ or even ‘love’ (both are common where I live), but I despise ‘babe’ and ‘hun’. Granted, it must be difficult for a retired major-general or hospital matron to be referred to in such an intimate fashion, but surely what matters is the amiability of one’s interlocutor who is, after all, trying only to be pleasant. Is being called "love" or "mate" by strangers offensive? In Derby, you are likely to be referred to as “me duck” and in the West Country as “my lover”. Guys, please stop saying 'bro', 'dude', and 'mate' Men only use "bro" to add a layer of sugar over a hard nugget of compressed fertiliser. these people who refer to me as mate are people who dont even know me. The problem with being called mate is that the people who are already your mates with don't really need to use the term . Such terms vary according to geography. 1) Australian slang greeting between friends that is actually used quite often, although stereotype rejecting Australians claim we don’t 2) A person you are very close to, whom they trust above all others. I had a customer at work threaten to make an official complaint cos someone else who worked there called him mate, so I guess you are not alone OP. it's nearly 12am and I still don't understand photosynthesis and respiration. i find it an offensive term to be referred by. Male etiquette, being called 'mate', how to interact with men politely in public without using 'feminine' language?? (FIY - it really gets on my tits for the above reasons.) Are any of you offended by this word as much as I am? His habit became a trademark and endeared him to all and sundry. I don't like the term, but it's a bit far to say that it's offensive. it isnt a coincidence that i get called mate by the arrogant poser *****s in the gym and the nicer looking, more modest people don't call me mate. Do you like it or does it get your back up? 😊, Official University of the Arts London 2021 applicant thread. A person may only have one mate. Thoughts please. We're so reserved!! 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